” I don’t want to mama, I’m scared!”.
This was the response from my daughter, as I explained to them we need to go back to our neighbors with an apology note.
You see, a few days ago, a young neighbor girl came and asked if my girls would like to play in her grandmas backyard. I said yes, since I was out in the front with my boys, and I do know them from a few houses down.
Apparently, their young friend asked them if they would like to pick some of her grandma’s carrots from the garden. My girls said OK, without asking an adult first. This unfortunately didn’t go over very well with the grandma!
A few days later I bumped into the grandma outside my house, and she explained how upset she was about ‘the missing carrots’. She is an older woman, with a thick accent, that didn’t really let me get a word in edge wise. When I had a chance to speak, I apologized on my girls behalf, and let her know I would talk to them.
I know that my daughters didn’t mean any harm, and they were following the leading of their friend, but we needed to make this right! I explained that we never do anything we are not sure of, without asking an adult (NOT a 5 yr old) first. And since one of our neighbors is upset, we will bring peace to the situation…… because we are children of God, and THAT makes us peace makers!. (Gal 5:22)
I helped the girls write letters to their friends grandma saying they were sorry, and told them we will walk over and give them to her.
The next day, we put a few homemade cookies on a plate and got ready to take the notes over to our neighbour. The girls were nervous, and thought this lady would yell at them. I explained that they are doing the right thing by making peace, and making things right. We then looked at Proverbs 15:3, and how it says that the eyes of the Lord are watching everywhere – the bad and the good. This is a good thing!
We went over to our neighbours house and the girls gave her their notes and cookies.
The girls were so relieved…… this lady didn’t yell at them, she didn’t scold them, and she didn’t shut the door on them. She did the opposite by welcoming them and accepting their apology!
What a great learning experience for the kids – to get over a fear, and do the right thing! You could tell, they felt ‘lighter’ afterwards.
Being consistent in training your children to always do the right thing, builds proper convictions in them.
Don’t give up parent!. You are doing a great thing, and you will reap what you sow.